In 1993 we got our Lab, Strider, who was a companion to our 4 sons growing up. He was amazing and smart and crazy and huge LOL. He was also hyperactive and chewed every single shoe, hose, furniture leg (outside), and he shed like a madman. But we loved him and in the one professional family photo, we are all posed and looking at the photographer and smiling, but ole Strider is staring at me and smiling :) That said it all. He loved and adored me. He lived to be 13 years old and it was around this time that we got our first Labradoodle, Lucy, and Prairie Doodles began it’s big adventure :)
Lucy was honestly the sweetest, funnest, most athletic, spoiled dog ever :) She knew how to get what she wanted and we all gladly catered to her. Spoiled but loved and she was part of our family and Jacob, our youngest, and Lucy were buddies. (she even went to his grad :))
When I began to breed the Labradoodles, I wanted to find wonderful homes for all my puppies. We pride ourselves on educating all our families. We have shopping lists, links and tips from everything from vets, to trainers, to groomers, to house training, we research food and recommend our favorites, and everything you can imagine you might need to be a successful puppy parent. We raise our puppies to the best of our abilities and we keep them healthy and clean and socialized. However the one thing that I believe in and yet didn’t talk about enough is BONDING and how important this one thing is for a successful life with your puppy.
Honestly, it doesn’t really matter which dog bed you buy, or if the dog food you choose isn’t my choice, but what does matter is whether or not you bond with your puppy.
The word BONDING means the process by which individuals become emotionally attached to one another. Normally, we would be thinking of the word as it relates to babies and parents but the bonding that happens between a puppy and a owner/family is also very important for the life of the dog. Through the years we have had a few situations where folks had to return their dogs due to some behavioural problem.
Now in most (not all) of these situations, upon looking back at them, it was very apparent that there was zero bonding to these dogs. In a couple instances, one spouse was bonded and loved the dog, but the other spouse did not have any affection or attachment to the dog and just wanted him gone. We had one family who actually couldn't bond because they were still attached to their deceased dog and all they did was compare the one to the other.
Thankfully this couple returned the puppy after a couple of weeks. They knew the importance of bonding with their puppy and I was very grateful to them for recognizing this. But we’ve had families who started out great, we had one such situation not too many years ago. They started off good, they had good intentions but I do believe that the dog became a chore, rather than part of the family.
What I believe happens is that over time, the prevailing attitude in the home, becomes one where the dog is a nuisance, they bring dirt into the home, they bark, they poop in the backyard (and sometimes the house) and negative behaviour is directed toward this beautiful creature who can’t audibly speak a language but can read body language and facial expressions and trust me they know whether or not they are loved. We had a family who was able to give up their dog (after several years), without any fuss or muss or tears or sorrow, just handed over the leash and didn’t even say good-bye.
Thankfully this particular dog was placed into a loving family and had a 2nd life with a family who loved him so much it didn’t matter if he ate their shoes or ran into the house with muddy paws. Floors can be mopped and shoes can be purchased again, but this living creature, is sensitive and intuitive and they know whether they are wanted or not. We had another situation, early on, where the dog lived in a crate for many hours of the day :( like being in a jail. The couple had babies and were too busy for him :( Can you imagine? It’s truly no wonder that this created a timid, shy, sad and reactive dog. It’s dog abuse to be sure.
Labradoodles need their families to love them. In my experience (I have raised many, many Labradoodles through the years) if the adult Labradoodle is having behaviour issues it can be traced back to a lack of bonding and love in the home toward the dog or puppy. As I was walking Elmer the other night it came to me that if your dog is a chore for you, if no one in the family wants to take him out for walks, or if you do go for walks but you take him to an off leash dog park and read your phone or you mostly lock him up in the garage, then in all likelihood you haven’t spent enough time bonding you need to change.